The last week or so id say iv been fine, not great, but pretty good, but if you asked my boyfriend I doubt he would describe me as a glowing positive light to be around. I can tell when i’m starting to feel anxious, as cushions out of place can overly bug me, my boyfriends shoes being in the wrong place, makes me consider moving in with our next door neighbour, and despite knowing that the kitchen table doesn’t need cleaning again, I will, for the third time that day. See I had overwhelmed myself with thoughts, worries and tasks that I needed to do, so it all took over a tad.
Luckily I recognise it, so I paused, re focused and told myself to slow down, and take care of myself. So apart from cleaning the house again, I did a few other things to re centre;
De-cluttered– Its amazing what throwing out old items, bagging up clothes for charity shops, and throwing away that box you said would be used for make up but never was, can do for the mind.
Unplugged – I turned off my phone, turned off the TV and started a new book. And enjoyed it.
Self Care Box- I made myself a self care box- I know the trigger for my anxiety was the amount of things I needed to do before surgery in the next couple of weeks, and of course the dread of having my leg sawn in half- as it doesn’t sound much fun. So I made myself a box to come home to, everyone should have one. Whether its physical or mental challenges, our soul needs it. See it as an emergency first Aid box for your emotions.
Here’s some Ideas to fill your box with;
- New Pyjamas – Fresh, new pyjamas from River Island will make me feel brand new.
- Incense, Candles & Lavender Room spray – Creating a calming space is great for the mind and soul.
- Chocolate- Because it makes everyone happy.
- A Journal – A note pad, journal, something to write down anything you feel.
- Healthy Tea– Try a soothing tea , ‘Positivitea’ with Elderflower & Blueberry. So good.
- Bath /Shower Gel- I cant bathe after surgery, bath salts would have been my go to. Instead I bought a new sweet smelling Ted Baker wash. Smells Amazing.
- New fluffy socks – As they feel nice and January is bloody cold.
- Mindfulness Colouring in– These really calm the mind for me .
- A New Book – Distract the mind with a good book, Iv chosen Fearne cottons new book ‘Happy’
- Eye Mask and Ear Plugs – Because a good sleep makes the world of difference.
Just doing those few things made a world of difference. Self care is so easy, yet we all forget to take care of ourselves. We worry more about our goals, achievements, work load, that we forget to just slow down and ask ourselves if were actually happy.
So going forward in January, for 30 days. I challenge us all to do one thing a day to benefit, your mind, body and soul;
30 Day Self Care Challenge
1- Go for a Long Walk.
2- Watch a documentary – I recommend the ‘ Impostor’ or ‘The Jinx’.
3- Stretch in the mornings.
4- Sit in silence, no TV, no phone, for 15 minutes before you start your day.
5-Start a new book.
6-Have a candle lit bath.
7- Book a massage or a treatment.
8- Write, draw, Paint, colour- Be creative.
9- De-clutter your home.
10- Call someone you love to check in on them.
11- Clear out your make up bag.
12- Splurge a little, treat yourself to that new top, shoes or thing you have your eye on.
13- Arrange a catch up with some friends.
14- Ask for help-Big or small, reach out to others.
15- Download a new podcast or audio book.
16- Hug a loved one, pet or a friend.
17- Help others, carry a bag, open a door, offer your help, listen, offer advice.
18-Put on clean new bed sheets.
19- Unplug for an hour, no phone, no TV. and just talk.
20- Have a lie in. Because you deserve one.
21- Exercise, gym ,run, swim, walk, what ever you can manage.
22- Laugh with a friend, message or call the friend who never fails to make you smile.
23- Watch a comedy- Micky Flanagan’s Stand up comedy never fails to lighten my mood.
24- Cook a new recipe -Try something new.
25- Try a new hobby or practice your hobby you’ve been neglecting.
26- Practice Meditation
27- Change up your home, move things around, put out new pictures, change up your space.
28- Complete that annoying task you keep putting off.
29- Write down 10 things you are grateful for.
30- Slow down and take some deep breaths.
Using this list see how many of these you can tick off by the end of January, and then take note of the difference you feel.
Make your ONLY goal this January be, to go from burnt out…….to balanced. xx